I begin with the Name of Allaah, the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful.
“O wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other women. If you keep your duty (to Allaah), then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery, etc.) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner. And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance,…” Qur’an 33:32-33.
The above verses addressed the wives of the Prophet (SAW). Undoubtedly, the Muslim women other than them are more in need of observing these etiquettes because they are nowhere close to the wives of the Prophet in terms of Iman (Faith) and Taqwa (piety).
If speaking in soft voice by a non-mahrem woman can move men to have evil desire for adultery what more of seeing a woman dancing?
Imam Al-Baghawi in his Tafseer of the above verse (Qur’an 33:32) said, “It is recommended for a woman to be coarse in her speech when talking to a Non-Mahrem to tame and cut off (any evil) desire.”
*We are a nation of moderation and modesty.*
Abu Mas’ud Uqbah ibn Amr al-Ansari (RA) said: The Messenger of Allaah (SAW) said, “From the words of the previous Prophets that the people still find are: If you feel no shame, then do as you wish.” Recorded by al-Bukhari
This hadith points to one of the most traits a Muslim can possess: the quality and characteristics of modesty, bashfulness and shyness adored with piety.
Imam al-Nawawi in Sharh Matn, brings to our minds the importance of this hadith when he states that all of Islam revolves around this statement of the Prophet (SAW).
The grammatical construction of the words of the hadith indicates a command. But in reality, it is threat and a stern warning which the scholars said could be translated as, “If you have no shame or modesty, then do whatever you wish and Allaah will recompense you–punish you–for what you do.”
The hadith has also been interpreted by the scholars of hadith to mean, “If a person does not have any shame, then he does whatever he wishes.”
*What is the position of dance with husband challenge wherein old and young Muslim married couples make a display of themselves in the public glare?*
It is a well-known fact in the circles of Muslims that it is forbidden for both spouses to spread the secrets of what happens between them in their private marital life; in fact, it is one of the most evil things a Muslim can indulge in.
To buttress the above reality, the Prophet (SAW) said: Among the most evil of people before Allaah on the Day of Resurrection will be a man who comes to his wife and has intercourse with her, then he spreads her secrets. (Narrated by Muslim).
It was also reported from Asmaa bint Yazeed that she was with the Prophet (SAW) and men and women were sitting with him, and the Prophet (SAW) said: Would any man say what he did with his wife? Would any woman tell others what she did with her husband? The people kept quiet and did not answer. I [Asmaa] said: Yes, by Allaah, O Messenger of Allaah, they (women) do that, and they (men) do that. He said, Do not do that. It is like a male devil meeting a female devil in the road and having intercourse with her whilst the people are watching. (Narrated by Abu Dawood, classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Adaab al-Zafaaf).
Therefore, Islamically, it is forbidden for a man or a woman to speak to anyone else of what happens between them in bed which no one else should see but them, because of the apparent evils and temptations that result from that and because it opens an avenue for Satan.
The scholars said, this has to do with one who speaks about what he did with his wife, so how about one who does things in front of people where they can see him!
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem (Rahimahullah) said in his Fataawa that kissing one’s wife in front of people is not permissible.
The word hayaa’ is derived from the word (al-hayaah), which means life. It is said that the one who has no hayaa (shame) is like a dead person in this life.
Dancing! What about dancing?
Someone said it so aptly that dancing is the vertical expression of a person’s horizontal desire. It simply invites to Zina (adultery or fornication). The scholars have stated that a woman dancing for non-mahrem and even in front of other women is forbidden because of what it leads to of temptation that might be caused by her body movements. So it could invite not only Zina but lesbianism.
*The famous Maliki School of thoughts maxim of BLOCKING THE MEANS
(SADD AL-DHARA’I) is handy here.*
It technically means blocking permissible things which might lead to evil. Some argue that it is permissible for a woman to dance for her husband, the question is, Is it then permissible for her to do that in front of non-Mahrem and the whole world?
A Muslim woman dancing and posting it for the public glare is an open invitation to Allaah’s disobedience. She is not alone, the husband that sits there and allows it has closed his eyes against the verse of Suratut-Tahrim. Allaah says: “O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allaah, but do that which they are commanded.” Qur’an 66:6
Unfortunately, it is the Children that record the despicable videos.
*A scary hadith for any concerned Father, husband, son and brother.*
It is proven in Saheeh Muslim and elsewhere from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (SAW) said: “There are two types of the people of Hell whom I have not seen: men with whips like the tails of cattle with which they strike the people, and women who are clothed but naked, walking with an enticing gait, with something like the humps of camels on their heads. They will not enter Paradise nor even smell its fragrance, and its fragrance can be smelled from such and such a distance.”
Walking with an enticing gait (seducing others) is enough reason for a woman to go to Hell what more of dancing for the world (if she was dancing for her husband the world would have not seen it because she is not married to the world).
“Pay attention to this*
Three persons will not be looked upon by Allah Almighty on the Day of Resurrection: one who disobeys his parents, a woman who imitates men, and ad-Dayooth.
Ad-Dayooth is the man who permits women for whom he is responsible (eg: mother, wife, sister etc.) to engage in illicit sexual relations, or to display their beauty to strange men, thereby stimulating their sexual desires.
Inna lillaahi wa inna illahyi raajiun. This is what we have found ourselves doing today. Muslims embracing everything that is wrong to embrace.
Without an iota of doubt, this dance for husband challenge is sinful and against the known norms of the Shariah. As for those who initiated it and promoted it, here is a hadith that might help in making rights your wrong.
The Prophet (SAW) said, “Whoever institutes a good practice in Islam will have its reward and the reward of whoever acts upon it without diminishing their rewards in the slightest. Whoever institutes an evil practice in Islam will have its sin and the sin of those who act upon it without diminishing their sins in the slightest.” Sahih Muslim.
The scary part of it is that some amongst the Muslims see nothing wrong in this. The Ummah is in need of guidance.
The good news is that Allaah forgives all sins as long as the sinful servant repents. Kindly delete those videos and dissociate yourselves from it if you were of those who initiated and encouraged it.
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