No man is worth it, by Hadiza Yuguda

Hadiza Yuguda
Hadiza Yuguda

In life, there are some things that are not worth it no matter what. Whether you are married or in a relationship, as a lady there are always limitations in whoever you might encounter as your spouse or boyfriend. These limitations can manifest in so many ways. For instance, take a close look at jealousy. It drives you crazy, it makes you insane, it makes you immoral and it can take you out of your senses. For who? a man?

I want to knock a sense into you ladies. You must come to terms with the fact that men are polygamous in nature because one woman cannot satisfy a man. Beauty cannot keep a man. Wealth or riches can’t either. Sex cannot still keep a man, nothing can keep a man. The last time I checked, some men with more than one wife at home chase other women outside. That is a man for you. Let us not be in denial and absolve ourselves of the fact that men are saints in the face on women. The earlier we accept it the better for us. I repeat, men are naturally polygamous in nature and, whether we like it or not, they need their space and freedom. You cannot cage them.

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A man is like a bird. He likes to fly freely. A man can surely come back to a lady when she does not cage him otherwise he will be lost forever. If you insist on caging him, he may be there with you but his mind is somewhere else. Is that what you want? No! I don’t think so.

It’s seriously aggravating how some ladies nowadays don’t carry their modesty along. For instance, the case of inhumanity in women is taking a toll for the worse. There is a trend these days where women are found killing and cutting their husbands or boyfriends manhood. In a recent case which I read, a 17-year-old girl in Jigawa cut off the manhood of her 25-year-old boyfriend because he was planning to dump her for another lady. Another incident was an Ibadan-based female lawyer, who was sentenced to seven years imprisonment for stabbing her husband to death. The gory incidences go down with Maryam Sanda too, who allegedly stabbed her husband to death Bilyamin Mohammed Bello because she saw another lady’s text message on his phone.  Many more of these incidences abound.

My take is that, ladies you don’t have to kill or harm a man because he’s cheating. You are too important to waste your life on any man by getting the death sentence, life imprisonment, or other horrible punishments by destroying him. The whole world will hate you because you have turned out to be a monster. You will destroy your innocent children’s future and also you will be putting your parent in shame. Hence, if you know you can’t be patient and ignore any man’s lies, infidelity, and non-sense in marriage or relationship, leave him quietly and move on. You will find someone better than him, but remember that someone is also a MAN. You know what? They say men are all the same only that some are better than others.

My perception, just as I said it and I will say it again, no man is worth it, no matter how rich, handsome, poor or ugly he is. My fellow ladies, look at the drama you create for yourselves, the stress, the energy wasted, the resources just for a man who never sees what truly he has at his disposal. He is not worthy of going to prison for. He is not worthy of taking shame and blames for. In fact, he is not worth dying for! Be cautious of whatever you do. Even in love, there are boundaries that you are not allowed to cross. Don’t give yourself high blood pressure. Think about the consequences of your actions, killing or cutting off someone’s manhood is not the answer or an end in itself.

No! No! No! This is not you. Any lady that knows her worth and value would not bring herself so low to commit this sinful act. It is devastating seriously. Remember the man you killed or cut off his manhood is some one’s son, father, and brother and has family that loves him dearly. Therefore, no one has the right to take a life. In as much you cannot give a life or repair a soul, you do not have any right to take it or destroy it.

In the final analysis, ladies, all you have to do is make your man respect you. With his respect, you are good to go. If you want to be happy in life and do not want to die young, stay away from his phone, for peace to reign. Stop investigating his whereabouts and also overlook some things that he does and might upset you. Distract yourself in your work, business or something that makes you happy.

My advice here is for you to be patient, and prayerful. If you know you are not happy with your husband or boyfriend, go and hide and cry. Crying is good for the body and soul, according to Frey, “Crying is not only a human response to sorrow and frustration, it’s a healthy one.” It is a natural way to reduce emotional stress that, if left unchecked can have negative physical effects on the body, including increased risk of cardiovascular disease and other stress-related diseases.

So, please think about it and don’t allow your anger to get the better of you and ask yourself ‘is there any man that is worth it’?

Ms Yuguda can be reached via, or on Twitter at: @HadeezahY.